Science
teaches us, what all of human history confirms, that from infancy our brains
quickly distinguish between those who are members of our group and those who
are not, and encourage us to be more friendly to the former and more hostile to
- or fearful of - the latter. Scientific studies have shown, what again all of
human history confirms, that infants favor what is familiar to them, responding
more positively to people who resemble them – and their parents – in appearance
and language, a pattern that persists among adults. So as adults we too tend to
favor what is familiar, people who are familiar, and to be apprehensive, fearful, or at
least somewhat skeptical of others. We
tend to respond more favorably, more trustingly, more empathetically, more
generously to members of our own group - family members, teammates, fellow
citizens of the nation with which we identify.
At its best, this inclines us to love our families and take care of one
another, to be loyal to organizations we are part of, to pay our taxes and
fulfill our other civic responsibilities, even to the point of risking our lives
to defend our nation against hostile attacks from other nations.
These
relationships can, of course, also limit us and cause us to get into all sorts
of conflicts with those in groups other than our own. To some extent what we
call civilization is all about managing these relationships and minimizing those
conflicts, sometimes stretching us to expand the boundaries of those we
identify with and consequently care about. At its best, that has been the story
of the United States. Our national story, despite powerful past and present efforts to forget
it, has been all about the coming together of different races and nations,
forming one nation out of many, creating one common community of citizens.
For
most of us, most of time, we depend on these networks of family, culture, and
society, relationships without which we could not successfully navigate through
life alone. So, of course, did Jesus’ disciples, who were undoubtedly shocked
by Jesus’ challenge to the importance of those relationships [Luke 14:25-33], as we too would
be if we actually paid attention to Jesus’ words and actions.
To an outside observer, much of
American religion might seem very family-oriented, -surprisingly so when
compared with Jesus’s own words and actions in a society which was, if
anything, far more family-centered than ours is. To an outside observer, much of American
religion might also seem very preoccupied with acquiring political power,
surprisingly so when compared with Jesus in the Gospels. Jesus’ challenge to rethink all our
relationships and refocus our sense of community and loyalty seems so extreme –
and extremely demanding - with the inevitable result that, while we may hear
Jesus’ words, we may not really be ready to listen all that intently. Yet Jesus
does challenge us, if we are really serious about being his disciples, to
listen to all his words – not just the nice, comforting, convenient ones. And,
if listening makes me worry that I may be too attached to my family, friends,
and fellow-citizens, that I am too swayed in my judgments by people who are
close to me and whom I care a lot about, perhaps too timid at times about
disagreeing with them or challenging them, or, if listening to Jesus’ words
makes me worry whether I am too attached to people and things, well that is
what listening to Jesus is supposed to do, that is the effect it is supposed to
have.
Most of us, of course, are usually
quite uncomfortable with words that challenge. And, because most of us have
families, friends, and possessions, we probably prefer Jesus’ more
sensible-sounding sayings – like the parable of the tower or the one about the
king marching into battle. That’s the sensible Jesus we all know and love – or,
rather, love to know – a Jesus who provides prudent practical advice that
respects regular common sense and our ordinary human feelings. The prudent
tower-builder and the cautious king who knows when it’s time to fight and when
it’s time to negotiate are examples we can all relate to – good examples of reasonable
people who know how to put their priorities in order and whom we would all do
well to imitate in our day-to-day lives.
But, just as we all know (or think we
know) how to set short-term priorities, Jesus also challenges us to pick the
proper priorities and act accordingly in the long term too – and to let no
shorter-term personal relationship or possession deflect us from our long-term
goal.
With all the people and things that
constantly compete for our attention – nice people and nice things, without
which we would find it hard to live in society – Jesus wants us to focus, first
of all, on him. But, with all the people and things that constantly compete for
our attention, who knows where and how far focusing on Jesus will take us, just
how much of a disruption it may prove to be?
Today’s 2nd reading [Philemon 9b-10, 12-17] reminds
us of the disruption becoming a Christian caused in the comfortable, socially
respectable life of Philemon, whom Paul had at some point converted, and who
had acquired a respectable position in the local Church as the host in whose
house the local Church assembled. Meanwhile, Philemon’s slave, Onesimus, had
run away and apparently found his way to Paul, who then converted him too. Paul
apparently appreciated Onesimus, whom he saw as a potential partner in his
missionary efforts; but instead he sent him back to his owner, with a letter
imploring Philemon to welcome Onesimus back as he would welcome Paul himself, no longer as a slave but more than a slave,
a brother, beloved especially to me, but even more so to you as a man and in
the Lord.
In a world of precisely structured social
relationships, the new, outside-that-structure relationship of being a disciple
of Jesus, changed everything and transformed all those existing social relationships.
It had done so for Paul himself. It was doing so for Onesimus. And it would do
so (as Paul confidently hoped) for Onesimus’ owner Philemon. The stories of
Paul, Onesimus, and Philemon show just what happens when we take seriously our
new relationship with Jesus and the whole new network of relationships that
being a follower of Jesus creates among fellow believers.
Homily for the 23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time, Immaculate Conception Church, Knoxville, TN, September 8, 2019.